A Blog Devoted to Encouraging Homeschooling Mothers

A Blog Devoted to Encouraging Homeschooling Mothers
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Monday, July 17, 2017

Barbara and Susan's Guide to the Empty Nest (Revised & Updated) - by Barbara Rainey & Susan Yates



So, this particular book review carries a special kind of weight for me and hit me squarely between the eyes with it's subject matter. I am about to become an empty-nester and I have absolutely no idea how this can possibly be true. My times they are a-changing. And I don't know that I like the changing of the times, to be honest.

Barbara and Susan's Guide to the Empty Nest is easy to read, well thought out, informative and, if not exactly essential for a woman in my situation, then by all means a wise option as I wrap up my current season of life. After all, I have been a full-time homeschool mom for almost 25 years. I probably need to seek out some counsel as I prepare to transition to...well...to whatever is next for me.

The book has 12 chapters, divided into three sections, and includes an epilogue as well as four appendixes and a small group or book club study guide. Like I said, it's well thought out and informative. The chapters stay true to their intended topic, which is nice because when discussing something like the impending empty nest there is no room for filler, fluff or rabbit trailing. Women need a strong dose of encouragement that is smothered in reality, because THIS...IS...DIFFICULT. Please do not placate me, pat me on the head, and tell me it will all be fine if I just pick up a new hobby. I am thankful Barbara and Susan don't do that. They have lived it, and that makes this book very relateable.

The chapter I liked the most (notice I used the word "liked", not the word "enjoyed" - I don't enjoy much about any of this empty nest prep stuff) was Chapter 12, "Changing Your World". It truly gives Christian women something impactful to press on toward as they walk through this time of change. I am not nearly done living yet, and I want to do something that changes some aspect of my world for the better, for Jesus and His Kingdom. I think most of the moms I know want the same thing. This book is a great resource for any woman nearing the emptying of her nest.

Consider grabbing a copy as a gift for a woman you know, or maybe even do this as a short-term small group with women from your church. It's beneficial to walk through this time of transition with others who will pray for and with us along the way.

I am thankful these women wrote this book and shared from their hearts, because it has given me permission to grieve while it gives me permission to look forward with hope. Thanks for that, Barbara and Susan!

On my "Page Turner Scale" of 1 to 5, I gave this book a 5.

Disclaimer ~ I received this book free of charge for review purposes from Bethany House Publishers. All opinions shared here are solely my own. 


Day 350 done :)

Jan L. Burt
The Homeschooling Mother's Bible Study
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Thursday, July 6, 2017

Summer Planning

It is easy for the homeschooling mother to sort of "drift" through her summer days. "Drift" being a relative term - summer means VBS and vacation and family reunions and swim lessons and visits to grandma and library reading programs and the like. There are no lazy summer days for busy moms, but there are days when the school year is far removed from our thoughts.

Don't let your child's education fall into the deep, black chasm labeled "Out of Sight, Out of Mind". Summer poses an excellent opportunity to evaluate our home life, which of course includes our homeschool life, and make certain that the things which are most important are the things you are accomplishing.

So, the big question to ask yourself is this: What is most important to you?

Do not be too quick to answer this question. Take your time, think on it, pray about it, listen for the Lord to speak to your heart. What is truly most important to you, as a disciple of Jesus? As a steward of the children He has blessed you with?

Once you have an answer, then take a few moments and write down the things that take up most of your time during the school year. Be honest! The only way to get done whatever it is that is most important in your life is to honestly evaluate where your time is spent on a daily basis.

If your use of time reflects your highest priorities, you don't need to finish reading this post and I give you and "air five"! However, if your time is not being used on the most important aspects of your life, take a hard look at things and ask yourself, "What is out of whack here?"

Be brutal and brave and make the changes necessary to align your life with your main goals. You only live once. Don't waste your one life on things that don't truly matter. And remember, your time with your children is limited and you don't want to look back one day only to realize your time was misspent over the course of those one-chance-only years.

Make a few changes, tweek a few things, and enjoy the rest of your summer!

Lord bless you today!

Day 349 done :)

Jan L Burt
The Homeschooling Mothers Bible Study